Once upon a time, there was a woman named Kim Davis.
She worked as a county clerk in Rowan County, Kentucky. She was a busy woman, mother, who had been married four times. For someone who hands out marriage licences, you’d think she’s be better at it. Anyways, one day, a gay couple came in to file for a marriage licence, in accordance to the Supreme Court ruling that legalized same-sex marriage in the United States of America, land of the free, home of the brave.
But, this county clerk wasn’t very free, or brave. In fact, Kim Davis, who said she was acting “under God’s authority”, refused to issue the marriage license to gay couple, who had been together for 11 years. She, feeling that she was on a roll with God, also denied three other couples, including two heterosexual couples. The last two may have been out of jealousy, due to her own ineptitude at marriage.
After much anger and legal crap, Davis was incarcerated until she agreed to hand out marriage licences to whoever wanted them. Recently, she was released from jail and allowed to return to work, so long as she didn’t interfere with others giving out marriage licences.
At one point, Davis was quoted as saying…
“I never imagined a day like this would come, where I would be asked to violate a central teaching of Scripture and of Jesus Himself regarding marriage. To issue a marriage license which conflicts with God’s definition of marriage, with my name affixed to the certificate, would violate my conscience. It is not a light issue for me. It is a Heaven or Hell decision. For me it is a decision of obedience. I have no animosity toward anyone and harbor no ill will. To me this has never been a gay or lesbian issue. It is about marriage and God’s Word.”
This coming from a woman married four times. Seems a little hypocritical doesn’t it. but I digress, because that isn’t the point of this blog.
The fact is, Kim Davis has a point. If she doesn’t believe in same-sex marriage, especially if it’s based on religious beliefs, then she shouldn’t be forced to do something against her beliefs. No matter how backwards and out-of-date her beliefs are.
When I was taking a course in Pharmacy Technician, a very similar scenario came up. What if someone brought a prescription for something that was against the Pharmacy Technician, or even the Pharmacists’, beliefs? The answer was simple, someone else would take care of the patient. The main goal was to help the patient. personal beliefs were taken into account, but if the person dealing with the patient could not due to personal or religious beliefs, then they would pass on the patient to someone who could. Simple.
It seems that Davis, despite saying that this “has never been a gay or lesbian issue”, made it one when she flatly denied to allow a gay couple to buy a marriage licence. If it had been solely about her religious beliefs, she could have gone to her manager and said that she couldn’t issue licences to any gay couples because of her religious convictions. If her boss was a decent person, he would have allowed that. But instead of doing that, satisfying her beliefs and allowing a gay couple to get married, she made it into an issue by refusing them, as well as a bunch of others, including two straight couples.
Which finally brings me to my point, which is that religion should stay the hell out of people’s lives.
It seems that the whole gay marriage, and gay equal rights thing, has become an issue for the church, especially Christians. Why? Unless gays are running into the churches and plastering everything in rainbows, or making out in pews, then religions shouldn’t have anything to do with gays who only want to live their lives.
Do churches have the right to refuse a gay couple from being married there? Absolutely!
Do religions have the right to stop gay people from getting married? Absolutely NOT!
The only time religion should be involved in anyone’s life is when that person wants it there. If it sticks its nose in people’s business who don’t want it there, then it becomes a nuisance and despised. These people who use religion in such a way, as a way to justify their fear and close-mindedness, turn something that is supposed to be meaningful and enlightening, into an instrument of hate and ignorance.
For those who don’t see gay marriage as a right due to their religious beliefs, they are entitled to their beliefs… as strongly as I disagree with those beliefs. But in a truly free country, that is their right. And their rights should be respected… to a point.
That point comes when their beliefs interfere with life and well-being of others.
Putting Kim Davis in jail may have only fanned the flames of those who would enact religious protection acts against what they think are people (IE: homosexuals) taking away their rights.
But the truth is, gays don’t want anyone else’s right to be taken away, like theirs has been for so long. All they want, is the same rights as everyone else.
Btw, did I mention that Kim Davis has been married four times? Tell Alanis Morrisette that her working in a marriage licence office is ironic. Don’t ya think?